What if you didn't have to choose?
What if you didn't have to choose?
In a world pulling us into extremes, The And Way: Assertive Peacemaking in a Divided World offers a groundbreaking approach to inner peace and social healing. Blending evidence-based tools with raw personal storytelling, this book meets you where you are and helps you reconnect with your truest self. If you’ve ever felt torn between roles, silenced in relationships, or unsure how to hold both compassion and conviction, this is your next right step.
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“We were taught to keep the peace, but no one ever showed us how to make it.”
You know the moment: the lump in your throat, the thought you swallow, the words you edit so you don’t upset the other person.
Maybe you call it maturity. Maybe you call it kindness. But what if it’s just fear? Fear of rejection, of conflict, of being misunderstood?
Kelsey Blahnik has walked the path of peacekeeping, people-pleasing, and inner conflict and emerged with a framework that challenges binary thinking. The And Way™ model is the culmination of her clinical work, personal transformation, and her belief that self-healing is the path to world-healing.
This book is for the person who knows there has to be more than choosing between silence and shouting, between compassion and conviction. For anyone who has felt the toll of trying to live a life of either/or. You’re not too much. You’re not too sensitive. You’re simply ready for a new way to live, lead, and relate with honesty, confidence, and peace.
Who is this book for?
If you’ve ever left a conversation feeling like you didn’t say what you really meant…
if you’ve found yourself nodding along to avoid conflict… or if you’ve struggled to understand how to handle tension in your work, your family, or your own mind…
this book is for you!
Spot Rigid Thinking
Learn how "all or nothing" thinking makes relationships and decision-making harder, and how to shift your mindset to be more open and kind.
Use Tools to Handle Conflict
Get simple ways to better understand yourself and others. You'll learn how to talk about hard things calmly and with care.
Treat People With Dignity
Understand how judging and labeling people hurts connection. This book shows you how to build bridges, even when you disagree.
Know the Difference Between Peacekeeping and Peacemaking
See how avoiding conflict (peacekeeping) is different from working through it in healthy ways (peacemaking). One keeps things quiet. The other builds real trust.
Work Through Tough Choices With a New Perspective
Use a "both/and" approach to find new ways forward when things feel stuck, whether it’s a problem with one person or something bigger in your community.
Stay Steady During Hard Conversations
Practice ways to stay calm and strong when things get tough. You’ll learn how to stay present, speak up kindly, and set a good example for others.
Whether you’re a therapist, a parent, a leader, or someone just trying to stay present in a divided world…
The And Way: Assertive Peacemaking in a Divided World
will meet you right there.
This book offers tools, stories, and hope for doing conflict differently.
Meet
Kelsey Blahnik
Therapist. Mom. Peacemaker. Speaker.
Kelsey Blahnik is a licensed clinical social worker, speaker, and the creator of The And Way™, a model built from years of work in behavioral health and a deep commitment to healing in divided spaces. With experience across substance use recovery, work with unhoused individuals, and trauma-informed care for veterans, Kelsey has seen how unresolved inner conflict and systemic polarization impact every level of society.
Her model, The And Way™, blends clinical insight, real-world experience, and accessible tools that help people move from disconnection to clarity, from conflict avoidance to compassionate engagement.
Beyond the therapy room, Kelsey is an advocate and community leader with Love Anyway, where she co-hosts monthly reconciliation gatherings that center dialogue, dignity, and repair. Through her workshops, online courses, and speaking engagements, she helps others navigate complexity, lean into discomfort, and show up with courage and compassion in leadership, in relationships, and in life.
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Continue to Grow With Kelsey…
Whether you’re ready to go deeper, revisit the material in a new way, or just want to stay in the conversation, here are three simple ways to stay connected with
The And Way™ and with Kelsey.
Experience The And Way™ in real time with Kelsey. This interactive, guided workshop is ideal if you want space to reflect, ask questions, and connect with others walking a similar path.
Prefer to learn at your own pace? This self-guided version of the workshop allows you to explore the same tools, stories, and reflections from the comfort of your own space, whenever it works for you.
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